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LOYALTY CAN SEND YOU TO HELL?

 

LOYALTY CAN SEND YOU STRAIGHT TO HELL?

There was a time when we stood by our friends through the thick and thin, because of loyalty, and we may have been right to do so.  Nowadays, it seems as if our values have changed, and loyalty has taken on a brand new meaning.

I believe If a man is not faithful to his own individuality, he cannot be loyal to anything.  Claude McKay

After years of friendship, I was disappointed to find how fragile a relationship can be and how easy it is to dismantle depending on how we define the word loyalty.

The definition of Loyalty is having a strong feeling of support or allegiance to someone.  In other words, if you are faithful or devoted to a certain person, you are loyal.  But don’t get it twisted true loyalty comes from the heart, not by contract.

I had a friendship that had endured over 40 years until loyalty became an issue.  It was then that I discovered I might not have had the friend I thought, and that I was merely a tool to be used as long as I agreed with their ways, that’s when I discovered friendships are the severest test of our character.

All it took was a request I was unwilling to fulfill; it was an issue of morals.

My so-called friend wanted me to introduce her to a male friend that was married, I refused, and all Hell broke out.

She had a history of being involved with married men, something that irked me throughout our friendship.

Finally, she realized I was never going to do her biddings, especially when it came to married men.  After a few more unpleasant words, she asks me where does my loyalty lie, while reminding me I was her friend first, and that I should stay loyal to her right or wrong.

She had taken loyalty a little too far for me, so I had to let her know if our friendship depended on me going against my values, and or morals to help her trap a married man, I had no loyalty towards her.   As far as I was concerned it was a matter of principle, not people.  Then again, some men are only loyal to their options, not me.

As the years passed, I learned When young we are faithful to individuals, when older we grow loyal to situations and types.  Cyril Connolly

I agree with A Phillip Randolph who tells us, Patriotism has no appeal to us; justice has. Party has no weight with us; Principle has. Loyalty is meaningless; it depends on what one is loyal to.

Back in the day, I thought loyalty was if you stick with me, I’ll stick with you through the thick and thin, right or wrong, do or die.  Well, that’s no longer true, if am going down it will be because of what I did, not because of someone else.  But, if we are fighting for a just cause I got your back other than that, Oh Well!

I feel when a person is a friend, their job is to love enough to be loyal enough to show enough courage to tell l me when they disagree with what I said or did.

Any friend that feels as if I should abandon my morals or principals because of loyalty to them, or expect me to ruin my life because we are friends, will lose my friendship and respect.

Just so you know, I could care less about men who are loyal to the people that pay them, they should have no loyalty to falsehoods. I believe loyalty only belongs to those who deserve it.  In other words.

Don’t let loyalty become your Slave Master, but remain loyal to those loyal to you, and to those who respect the truth.

For most people, loyalty and friendship is not the same thing in my opinion.  Loyalty is derived from principles such as honesty and integrity, and it can never be bought, coupled with an honest opinion, like it or not.

As for me, the only people to which I owe my loyalty are those who never made me question theirs, or our friendship with questionable behavior just because we are friends.  The thing is, I can go to Hell all by myself without loyalty to others being the reason.

 It’s Something to Think About!

Jesus is Lord!

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Posted by on January 28, 2020 in Something To Think About

 

THE LIVING DEAD?

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TIS THE SEASON!

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Merry Christmas! (English)

Feliz Navidad! (Spanish-speaking countries)

Joyeux Noel! (French-speaking countries)

Merril Durisumasu! (Arabic speaking countries)

Nollaig Shona Dhuit! (Ireland)

Salig Derstfeest! (Dutch-speaking countries)

Frohlich Weihnachten! (Germany)

Buon Natale! (Italy)

Milad Mubarak! (Arabic speaking country)

Bara Din Mubarak Ho! (Isreal)

Eftichismena Chistougenna! (Greece)

Sretan Bozic! (Croatia)

Merii Kurisumasu! (Japan)

Gezuar Krishlindjet! (Albania)

Have a Happy Holiday wherever you are.

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Posted by on December 25, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

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Merry Christmas!

It’s that time of year again to wish all a Merry Christmas, the old year will soon come to an end as we count our blessings or not?   I am excited as I eagerly await the beginning of a new chapter in the Book of my Life; the year it will become a Bestseller.  Your?

My source for success will be a strong commitment to my desires and dreams.  2020 is a good as any start and a great time to begin asking new questions that lead to new heights or the completion of something worth an ending.

Benjamin Franklin tells us, It’s the dream that gives birth to changes. Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every New Year find you a better person.

I can’t find a better place to be then in the land of the living for another New Year.  This could be the year we find the inspiration we may have lacked last year by asking for help; that could be something new?  A change in the way we normally do things may be well worth it.

As for me, I am a little selfish and claim two New Years’ day celebrations, one is the traditional, January 1st, and the other is August 10, my birthday when it will truly be another new year for me.

In the meantime, wrap it up, I’ll take it, January 1st work for me.

It’s Something the Think About!

Remember, Jesus is the reason for the season.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Everybody. 

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Posted by on December 20, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

I AIN’T MAD, BUT THE TRUTH IS…

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I AIN’T MAD, BUT THE TRUTH IS…

The truth is stranger than fiction, but it is because fiction is obliged to stick to possibilities; Truth isn’t.  Mark Twain.

The truth about well done is better than well said.

We can hide many things, but no matter how hard we may try, the Sun, the Moon, and the Truth will eventually come out.  So, the truth is, to tell the truth, or someone will tell it for you.

Most pretend to not know the importance of being earnest, the truth is, telling the truth gives us the assurance of not having to remember what we say.

Taking into account all the Fake News we are bombasted with daily, the truth is, Facts do not cease to exist just because they are ignored.

Just because a man dies for what he thinks is true does not make it true.  The truth is we are surrounded by deceit and lies; the sad thing is telling the truth in this environment is likened to starting WW3.

When we stand face to face with another, it’s hard to be ourselves without embellishing who we are, but, the truth is if we give another or ourselves a mask, then and only then there is a possibility we may tell us the truth.

Most times, when we lie and then realize it was not detected, we give ourselves a sigh of relief before running from the facts.  The truth is, now we are lying to ourselves by acting as if it never happened.

Unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot forgive yourself.  The truth is you have to be unapologetically you.  Steve Maraboli

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to give them a chance for you to trust them.  The thing is you’ll have your answer.

There have been times when I chose to look the other way, especially when I shouldn’t have but did it anyway.  The truth is, now I can never say I didn’t know.

What is done cannot be undone, like keeping unworthy secrets.  The truth is, at some point the secret becomes irrelevant, the fact that you kept it does not.

In a room where people unanimously maintain a conspiracy of silence, one word of truth sounds like a pistol shot.  Czestaw Mitosz

Everyone should choose how much truth they can stand, but when you cut pieces out of the truth that’s when you start to look like a moron.

We all should know the opposite of a correct statement is a false statement, and we should cherish those who speak the truth, the thing is we’re more interested in those who claim to have found it.

The thing is the truth is not always tasteful.  People often claim to hunger for it, but seldom do they like the taste when it’s served up.

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Posted by on December 2, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

Thanksgiving?

Did you know thankfulness is to be appreciative; and Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings?   W.A. Ward

We cannot pick our families, but we can choose who we sit down to fellowship with.

Therefore; Blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) is the man whom You choose and cause to come near, that he may dwell in Your courts!   Psalm 65:4  The Amplified Bible

For quite a few of us, the Thanksgiving Holiday means extra days off of work, an array of good and not so healthy food for all to enjoy, parades, and of course football games.  Oops, let’s not forget family and friends, while keeping a close watch on the door, in an effort to keep you know who out.

Satan is always banging on the glass, asking to come in, especially if it’s a bonding session.  He knew on these occasions a misunderstood word or gesture can complicate a good meal, therefore creating and non-Christian like environment that can destroy the Thanksgiving Spirit; disappointing the pilgrims.  (Children, the un-involved, etc.)

With so much confusion and different activities going on, perhaps we are missing the whole meaning of Thanksgiving?

Did you know, Psalm 92:1-4, from The Bible Truth, tells us: And when ye will offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving unto the Lord, offer it at your own will… God does not compel us or require us that we show gratitude to Him?

The meaning of Thanksgiving (1st Corinthians 14:16) is the language to be used as an act of worship intended for only God?  And thanksgiving is the means whereby we acknowledge the receipt of God’s forgiveness.

So the true meaning of Thanksgiving is a relationship between God and man.  It’s an attitude of the heart, and that reinforces the relationship.

And, did you know some of us to realize He is worthy of our gratitude?  We belong to Him and have been blessed with life; an abundant life when we give Him all the Glory.

So, this Thanksgiving Day and all to come, before we start enjoying the festivities, let it be your will to Giving thanks to the Lord, for he is good.  His love endures forever.    Psalm 136:1

Then pray for peace.  🙂

Thank you, Lord, for each new day, for our health, the air we breathe, good food, our loved ones, and friends.  Let us be a blessing to all those we come in contact with.

Thank you for everything, your Grace sends.  It is in the name of Jesus Christ that we pray.

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Posted by on November 19, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

CANCER: JUST SO YOU KNOW?

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CANCER: JUST SO YOU KNOW?

Everybody’s Cancer Journey is not the same, and God is not in the business of dispensing pain or drama.  He is a healer, so stop blaming Him for what the World has to offer while listening to the Devil and the Devillets encouraging us to give up on Faith.

Here is an example.

When I arrived home from having a Mastectomy, a sweet-looking old lady, who happened to be with a friend, took me by the hand while rubbing it ever so gently saying, we all have been praying for you, baby.  And then she asked if I knew Betty Ann when I said “no” she said, “Good because Betty Ann only lasted 6 months.”

Run!  The Devil is a liar and comes in all shapes, forms, and fashions, especially when we are weak.  Did you know To Kill the Head is to Kill the Body?

As for me, I sought the Lord. He heard me and delivered me from all my fears.  Psalms 43:4

Just so you know, with or without cancer life is a steady stream of ups and downs, ins and outs, good and bad, so on and so forth’s.  In other words, Cancer is just another worldly battle we may have to fight uphill.

I pray this next statement is not you from sheer experience.

Did you know there are those who fall apart if they see or hear the word cancer spoken in the same sentence as their name?  If this is you, you may already be dead in your head, coupled with you decided that fate for yourself.

Not I, Jesus Christ and Perseverence is King in my book.

Now don’t get me wrong, perseverance is not an easy task; it takes a steady persistence in a course of action, purpose in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement, with little or no indication of success, but this is clear; All things work together for the good of them that love God and those called to his purpose.

And just so you know, sometimes just surviving cancer is not enough; we have to overcome the memory and the toll it takes on our friends and our bodies.  I did not say to forget.

I had to learn to love my scars; they’re a blessing because they remind me of the fact that the Dead Don’t Heal.

And I discovered worrying does not empty tomorrow’s troubles and you don’t get to choose if or how you get hurt in this world.

Those who want, have the Creator on their side, not to mention they have already been given Eternal Life, whom or what shall they fear?

So breath in your courage and exhale your fears because new beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.

Remember Resilience relies on its goals to strive, and to overcome the unexpected, creating Sustainability, which is all about Surviving.

And just so you know it’s time for us to go int the world as over-encourages, because the world is already full of critics.

It’s Something To Think About!

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Posted by on October 30, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

CANCER?

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CANCER?

I don’t know about you, but I am a 3rd Stage Cancer Survivor who is I am tired of talking about what cancer did to me.  I prefer to talk about what it did not and could not do.

When I first read the poem What Cancer Cannot Do, (I don’t know who the author is) it left me with an odd feeling that something in me wanted to come out.

I soon found myself dissecting each verse for a better understanding of why Cancer is so limited it can’t cripple love or shatter hope, corrode faith, eat away peace, destroy confidence, kill friendships, shut out memories, silence courage, reduce eternal life or quench the spirit.

In 2008 I had cancer, and the more I thought about it, the more I understood just how limited Cancer really is.  It was obvious to me that cancer couldn’t cripple love simply because most know relationships don’t last because of the good times.

Relationships last because of love, respect and caring, coupled with the healing spirit we received from God.

Cancer cannot shatter hope.

No one I know plans to live a hopeless life.

Hope is a feeling we have that the feeling we have is not permanent.  So if you have hope, you have what you need to press forward.

Cancer cannot corrode Faith. 

I know faith can go far beyond what the eyes can see, so focus on the fight, not the fright.

I am living proof that no matter what the statistics say, there is always another way.

I suggest when you reach the end of your rope to tie a knot and hang on because your seeds of faith are always within you.  Sometimes it just takes a crisis to nourish and encourage their growth.   Did you know if we feed our faith through Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, our fears will starve to death?

Cancer cannot eat away peace. 

It matters what we do, but peace cannot and will never be kept by force.  I suggest we not be in a hurry while doing everything quietly and in a calm spirit.

Did you know no matter how much havoc cancer may wreak on our bodies, it does not have the final say?

Craig T. Owen’s analysis tells us If God doesn’t take cancer out of us on earth, He will take us out of cancer, and home to heaven.

Cancer cannot destroy confidence.

Confidence is the foundation of all success and achievements.  Then again, not everyone will be saved.  That’s Life!

Be confident that cancer is not a death sentence for all, take your chances by using the Power of the Holy Spirit, while listening to your doctor, not the wagging of tongues.

Help yourself by being mentally and physical humble in your confidence, yet courageous in your fight, and remember confidence is feeling good about yourself without anyone having to tell you how beautifully bald, or how brave you are.

Cancer cannot kill friendships. 

When someone has cancer and you are a friend, be that friend.  Don’t miss your opportunity to reach out and touch the things you know as a friend and use them to help.  No pity parties allowed.

And just so you know, some friends can’t manage their own fears, so they may be unable to support you.  We need to understand, if that was to happen, it’s not always about you.

Cancer cannot shut out memories.

If you attempt to shut your mind down, that action allows depression to strengthen its hold.

And just in case you are not brain dead or planning on it, take into consideration Bill Watterson’s point of view, he calmly reminds us, The mind is like a car battery, it recharges by running.

Cancer cannot silence courage.

Courage is moving forward, not a disease you fear when wondering what’s ahead.  And just like all success is not final, not all failures are fatal, it is the courage to continue that matters.

Did you know with Jesus Christ you are stronger than you struggle and fiercer than your fears?

By developing discipline and strength, you can move far beyond any setbacks, and you will gain the courage to embrace who you are and your divine purpose.

Cancer cannot reduce Eternal Life.

We are eternal beings, and we that love God will never die.  Christians sometimes make themselves into elephants afraid of mice.  You have The Creator on your side, not to mention you’ve already been given Eternal Life.  Whom or what shall you fear?

Criss Jami points out; To be afraid of death or anything other than God Himself, in his and my opinion, is like an insult to Him.

Cancer cannot quench the spirit.

The word quench in Scripture is speaking of suppressing the fire.

Ephesians 6:16 tells us above all, taking up the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. 

I know cancer is wicked, but it’s your belief in God and trust in your doctors that will put the fires out.  I believe that because it was done for me.  I also believe what is written in the Bible as the Gospel Truth, so because of that, I believe Jesus Christ is the reason I am alive today.

I am not trying to take anything away from the seriousness of cancer, but I found the best way to cope, for me, is to treat cancer just like I would any other illness, setback or life event as just another part of life we will have to deal with, So deal with it.

It’s Something To Think About!

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Posted by on October 14, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

I SHOULD HAVE?

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I SHOULD HAVE?

Should have. Would have. Could have. DIDN’T.

I am thankful to all those who said No to me. It’s because of them that I am doing myself.  Albert Einstein

The words I should have has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silenced voice of justice when it matters, has made it possible for evil to triumph.

I should have done a lot of things, but I didn’t for a lot of reasons; I was leaving a job, for the sake of love, got a divorce, I should have taken some of the advice I gave to others, etc…

Instead of working on myself I was literally building another’s story instead of mine.  My focus was on what they were doing instead of what Am capable of.   The price was precious time.  

The most precious gift to the living is Time!  We need it like water to the body.

When the Know It All’s want to give advice using baseless opinions about what I should or should not do I say No Thank You.  But, oftentimes the word No means nothing to those who proclaim their advice is the best out there.

First of all, I don’t recall asking for advice or suggestions.

What I do know is, when it’s all said and done I am usually in a better position than the information givers; If they were to take the same advice they give, one thing is for certain, they will find out if its good or not.

Did you know a part of a fool’s job is to give advice, but not for himself?

There have been times when I should have taken the advice of others but I didn’t.   I should have excepted challenges under my own terms instead of following the guidelines of the unproven.  I should have known to never take the advice of someone who has never suffered my type of trouble or pain.

There were plenty of times when I knew better than they, coupled with a better solution, all because I have a mind of my own and able to reason for myself.  Sometimes we have too much respect for the opinions of others and not enough of our own.

For me, giving advice is like cooking–you should try the receipt before you feed it to others.  And just for the record, a lot of times I should have taken the advice I was giving to others.

Then there were the times when I should have known better than to start something I knew I couldn’t finish.  When we lay a foundation and are not able to finish it, most who see it will see us as a failure because we couldn’t or wouldn’t finish what we started.

I should have let go when I knew I couldn’t do or finish something by not accepting the responsibility and consequences of my in-actions.  And I should have known no one can make me feel inferior without my consent. 

No one can take over your body and mind if you choose not to give them that type of power.  What you should know is No one can compete with you on being you.

I should have traveled further to find my happiness.  I know now that It’s the Spiritual experiences of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude that defines our joy.

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goals; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.  Thomas Jefferson

I should have gone where I was celebrated…not just tolerated.  Hanging on to the hem of others are not recognized for anything other than being a blind follower. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on September 24, 2019 in Something To Think About

 

THE BOTTOM LINE IS…

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Posted by on September 6, 2019 in Something To Think About

 
 
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