I have had my fair share of Relationships; they were so messy the only thing I could do was run; as a matter of fact, that’s how I got to Atlanta, Ga…Running from unhealthy relationships.
I was looking for love in all the wrong places; jute joints, bars, after-hour clubs. I would enter business relationships with pimps, thieves, whores, backstabbers; The American Gangsters.
I put myself in situations that were overpowering, domineering, or plain ole ungodly. The way I was acting who would have ever believed I had a real relationship with Christ?
FYI: I was born during the time if you didn’t know Jesus you wasn’t black.
I was 15 years old and in a relationship with a grown man. I thought it was a loving relationship. Later experience would teach me I was too young, and too stupid to recognize the relationship I had with that old man is called, Child Abuse.
I had snuck out of the house one fateful night, and that created an opportunity for him to take me to a party in Chicago, Ill…While there, a couple of Priest entered the room exposing machine guns strapped to their sides. My eyes were as big as Squirrels when this Devil leaned in close and said, You know, no one knows where you are.
I was in a Dangerous Relationship, and if I did not cooperate there may be some type of repercussions. It was hard but I took my butt whopping while delivering a few of my own in an effort to get away from someone who determined to control me.
Thank God I made my way out of that Abusive Relationship. I know, I am not the first this has happened to, but I was determined to be the one that didn’t come back for seconds.
I found people to be irrational, relationships to be complicated, and they involved outcomes that are uncertain.
It seemed as if I couldn’t have a healthy relationship, perhaps that’s because I didn’t have the skills. I had to grow for a minute before I could I know things like assumptions kills relationships, and so will our treasured possessions.
I knew it was time go when he wanted me to the bread-winner.
Why? He’s the man, at lease that is what he told me. But, things happened and I took advantage of them; Now that created a Selfish Relationship.
Later on, I learned bad things can happen when we criticize are partners instead of encouraging them. And having an evil spirit about us, coupled with selfish indifference’s and neglect, is a mix of madness in any relationship that will ultimately cause it to demise.
Experience has taught me the Best Relationships are the ones where we Talk like the best of friends, play like children, argue like husband and wife, and protect each other like brothers and sisters.
We should cherish and appreciate all our relationships, whether they are in the classroom, boardroom, or bedroom while ending all negative cycles by not repeating the same patterns in Future Relationships.
Just for the record, I’m leery when there are no arguments in a relationship, that too often mean there are secrets. One slip of the tongue and…By the way, who said we need a mate to complete us? What we need is self-acceptance, self-worth, and self-approval. The rest will come.
I am aware of the fact that some don’t make it out of Bad Relationships. If it wasn’t for my knowledge and faith in Jesus Christ, I believe I would have died at a young age by the hands of an old possessive man, long before Cancer tried to kill me.
Although I never had children I know, A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn’t want her daughter to have, or one she would scold her son for.
With Christ, I was able to gain independence and emotional self-reliance. Including control over my self-defeating, self-sabotaging behavior and thoughts. If I hadn’t been raised in the Church, and didn’t have a praying family, I truly believe I would have never known the type of peace I am experiencing now.
But I did, and I know Jesus love’s us, and from that, I knew there were a better way and a better life than what I was living. My conscience was bothering me, so I sought to obtain a Wholesome Relationship with Christ.
And as far as me being a UN-married woman, Isaiah 54:5 tells me; for your Maker is your husband, The Lord of hosts is His name, and your redeemer is the Holy one of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth.
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Thank you, Lord, for all you do to protect us from ourselves. In the matchless name of Jesus Christ, we pray. To God Be The Glory! Amen!
Norvie L. Cherry 