Nations like individuals, are punished for their transgressions.  “The world seems to be falling apart every time we hear these words: tribulations, or trial.”   The author of those words is unknown to me.

I have often heard that some of the worst things that can happen, is because of the best intentions.  I believe that, and I am sure most have tried to help another out, and it did not go well. There can be many reasons this happens.  Maybe others didn’t want our help or need it.

Some things are better done on our own, and we will work it out, without you.  Sometimes we go off half cocked, trying to be helpful, but; with little or no information this can cause serious problems, in someone else life, as well as our own.

It is perfectly natural to handle your life, but when it comes to others, we need to have permission to intercede, and clear in every detail, which may need our services.  Without permission and the correct facts, we may cause more harm than our good intentions, can generate.

Willing to help is what Christ wants from us.  We also need to understand, that also has its time and place.   When it is clearly none of your business, wading in without an invite, is not a good idea.

“Minding your own business is not an option, it is a demand.”   According to me, Norvie L. Cherry

Somethings are better left unsaid as I found out in the case of the interfering mother.  I recently watched a program where a son was getting married and the mother wanted the him to get his bride to sign a prenuptial agreement. That was OK as long as she keeps it between the both of them.

But no!  She interfered with her son business causing a huge riff.  The mother called the bride in for a little chat. Telling her if she does not sign the agreement her son would never marry her.  Her excuse was she was only protecting him.  She was clearly overbearing and out of her jurisdiction.

The bride was not aware that papers had been drawn up, because the mother interfered before the son had made a decision concerning the issue, or spoken to his bride to be.  This marriage was off to a bumpy start before it had even taken place.  The fault of someone else, interfering in things that are not their business.  We need to handle our own, and let others do them unless asked.  “Personal business means personal business.” 

This story ended with the bride giving the groom, a prenuptial to sign that was a lot stiffer than his own; plus she was the one with the real money.  Before the groom’s mother interfered, and her friends were giving advice; she had no intentions of putting a price on her marriage.  She said “do that and your marriage will fail.”

Somethings are better left unsaid.  Oh!  I forgot some people know everything and can fix it too.  Just believing we have that type of power, can be very stressful, and foolish.

We need to take our time and think about what we are about to say, before we say it; and just because it is true doesn’t mean it should be said, by you.  There is always the possibility we can provoke further pain and agony.

I was watching some court room drama concerning a child lost to a serial killer.  As the preceding were drawing to a close, the mother was allowed to address the killer.  When she finished saying, everything to this man she could think of, as bad as that was, she still managed to “go too far;”  and said some things that would have been better off left unsaid.

This woman turned to address the crowded courtroom and said; “I am a God-fearing Christian woman, I know God answers prayers.  I am really low now, I feel so bad that I hope everyone in this courtroom, and the world feel the same hurt, I do.”  She went on to say; “I pray to Jesus that this happens.”

I have no idea where the christian part is inside of her, or what God she may be serving; but it is not Jesus.  If she read the Bible and acted accordingly, she would have known better, and not say such hurtful words, or wish hell on the whole world.  She is and will never be the only mother to lose a child for any reason.

Entertaining hate, for everyone and everything was consuming her.  I couldn’t help but to think she may in some part be responsible for her daughters, death.  Hold on now, let me finish,  we’ll get there.

She may have chased her daughter out, drugs, maybe there was no problem at all.  “It is what it is.”  The fact still remain no good thing can come from the comments offered in the courtroom.  This woman may have lost her blessing for peace, long before her daughter lost her life.  Until she finds the real Jesus and ask for forgiveness, maybe the pain can be endured.  What she said was the work of the devil, himself.

The God I serve is not into blood, guts or vomit.  He is in our hearts to assist, not to blame others or try to destroy the lives, of whom He created.  Because of our tribulations. (Wrong doings)  The killing could have been  “a price to pay;”   For the SINS of the FATHER, and his TRANSGRESSIONS.

Who knows, but Christ?  She may also be a victim of someone else crimes.  Oh!  The things we don’t know?

“Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation.”   Exodus 34:7

Children are paying a heavy price for the transgressions of their fathers (others). This is a road well-traveled.  Loaded with unprecedented and, unnecessary circumstances; they are almost overwhelming with penalties, and  unconscionable though patterns.  Some children because of their family tree, suffer beyond and above the normal.

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, so ye even do to them: for this is the law and the prophets.”   Matthew 7:12

In other words you  “reap what you sow”  and it can linger for an eternity, reeking havoc on all those you love, and sometimes without you or their knowledge.  I am not suggesting this is what happened to this mother, or any member of her family.  I am using her story to give you quote from the  “good book,”   a heads up on something you may not know.

Transgressions can be passed on to the innocent.  Let’s all pray in earnest for all who have or will cross paths with the unsavory…and for all to modify our behavior, for the good of our families, the whole world and beyond.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  2  Honor thy father and mother;  (which is the first commandment with promise;)  3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.  4  And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”   Ephesians 6:1-4

We know what the ones say that have spent time in jail; (hell, etc.)  “Don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time.  Three and four generations of agony, I wouldn’t wish that on a dog that just bit me.

“That which of all things unfits man for the reception of Christ as Savior, is not gross profligacy outward, vehement transgression, but it is self-complacency, fatal self-righteousness and self-sufficiency.”  Alexander Maclaren.

 “Somethings are better off, left unsaid,” but to some, it may have been necessary to hear.

“Give and it shall be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”   Luke 6:38

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