For the Bible says: “Thine own friend, and thy father’s friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother’s house in the day of thy calamity: for better is a neighbor that is near than a brother far off,” Proverbs 27:10. As far as I am concerned, that statement is a warning.The dictionary is full of words that symbolize a friend. A few are Comrade, Chum, Confidant, Advocate, Ally, Associate, and Compatriot. My definition of a friend is a person that I regard with affection and loyalty.
A friendship is an association that values another person’s relationship with you, and or intimacy. Oscar Wilde claims, “Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is far the best ending one.” C.S. Lewis’ take on friendship is more to my liking. His saying was, “… Friendship has no survival value: rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.” Both in some parts are true. And as usual, in my opinion, there is a lot more to it.
The Bible also tells us that a man who has friends must show himself to be a friend. It also tells us that some friendships are closer, and at times more approachable than that of a family member, as stated in the opening verse. You can read the rest in the 27th chapter of Proverbs.
Life is an unbelievable journey, and for it to come alive, a few friends will be an asset. You cannot take your friends lightly. If they are truly your friend they will tell you when you are wrong and or right, and stand by their decision never forsaking you. In other words, you may get away with a lot of things, but you will know the truth about your behavior because your friends will state their case whether you like it or not. One of the best traits your friends may have is a good sense of who you are and still Love You.
Friends tend to be on the same level, the Bible calls it equally yoked. And like in every relation, everyone’s strengths vary. (Equally yoked is referring to being of one mind in Christ).
Value your friends; they are the ones who will be there when you feel all is lost. They will uplift you in a time of need, help you enhance your self-image, build your self-esteem, improve your confidence, and even when you have pushed them to their limits, they cannot find the Heart to leave you.
They are also the ones who know when to hush.
A friend may also be your accomplice, a person who knowingly helps another in a crime or any wrongdoing. Need we go there? I think that is enough said. (“Some people think that this is a form of friendship”. As Christians, we know that this is not what a true God, fearing friend would do.)
There is an old saying about friendship when giving advice; seek to help, not please your friend.
When you enjoy the times, with your family and friends, you’ll do a better job of tackling your life long goals. Friends can encourage you to become healthier and fit by taking on a more active lifestyle. They will in time, help to improve your mind and well-being. No two people are the same, so having a friend or friends will help balance and give you another perspective on life. A true friend would have a God-fearing walk in life. Someone you trust, and who inspires you to be Unique. Like the friends I hope, read and understand this.
Your best friend may not be your Mother, but your Father who cares for you, Which Art in Heaven.